Op-Ed: Love me, love me not: Why Galentine’s Day should be equally celebrated as Valentine’s Day
February 7, 2021
Heart-shaped Hershey kisses. Pink and red balloons. Life-size stuffed teddy bears embroidered with the phrase, “I love you.” Red roses. Assorted candy, all different shapes, colors and sizes. Cupid. Sappy social media posts. All things directly associated with Valentine’s Day. The one day a year where romantic partners must re-confess their love to one another, through never-ending gifts and continuous acts of affection.
February is a month dominated by notable events and celebrations such as Chinese New Year, Mardi Gras, Black History Month, Groundhog Day, the Super Bowl and of course, Valentine’s Day. But the one unofficially official holiday that is often left out and forgotten is Galentine’s Day.
According to Urban Dictionary, Galentine’s Day is celebrated on Feb. 13 and is a holiday dedicated to showering your closest friends with even more love and attention than you typically would on a normal occasion. This coming month will mark the 11th year anniversary of Galentine’s Day, as it originally derived from the hit television show “Parks and Recreation.” This cultural phenomenon is one that I’m proud to say I celebrate, as it marks a day where women of all ages can come together to celebrate, lift up and praise one another.
It is no secret that the history and origins surrounding Valentine’s Day are enveloped in mystery, while alternatively, Galentine’s Day is a candid American commodity whose background is fairly well-known across the United States and beyond.
Even though Galentine’s Day is a holiday that is primarily celebrated by women, it stills acts as an outlet for all people, regardless of gender, to come together to cherish and celebrate the gift of friendship.
Unlike Valentine’s Day, this holiday isn’t incentive-based and entirely wrapped around how many gifts one can buy for another, no pun intended. Valentine’s Day is often criticized for its materialistic outlook on what love should look like within relationships and tends to veer more toward money, rather than sincerity.
Coupled with the effects of social media during various holiday seasons, feelings of anxiety, stress and insecurity may arise, as Valentine’s Day is known for unintentionally perpetuating FOMO. Galentine’s however, focuses on the significance of spending time with your friends and emphasizing your gratitude and appreciation for all that they do.
But this year, celebrations have to be put on hold thanks to the novel COVID-19 virus, which continues to lurk at every corner. But, that doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. Galentine’s Day is something that can easily be celebrated virtually, whether you gather all of your friends on a Zoom or FaceTime call to chat, or even choose to host a Netflix party, you have full reign to celebrate in a variety of ways.
If the pandemic has taught me anything, it is the importance of friendship and connection in times of hardship. So this Galentine’s Day, I ask that you call or text your friends, or at least try to celebrate this holiday in some capacity for everyone is deserving and loved.
But you don’t need a bouquet of roses or chocolate box from See’s Candy to know that.
Joshua Walker • Feb 19, 2021 at 10:57 am
Great article! I first learned about Galentine’s Day from Parks and Rec and always thought it was a holiday specific for women but now that I know it’s all inclusive, forget Valentine’s Day!
Laarni D. • Feb 13, 2021 at 4:05 pm
Love this, Miss VRA!! Happy Galentine’s Day! 💕 “…for everyone is deserving and loved.” #truth 🙌🏽
Tracy Mestres • Feb 12, 2021 at 7:12 pm
What an informative and beautifully written article! Thank you for all of the information and the reminder that everyone is deserving and loved. It feels good to give and receive the love every day, including this special day!
🌴 Robertta 🌴 Anoa’i-Morales • Feb 12, 2021 at 12:22 am
Thank you my darling Vaughnie!
That was so very well written! I’m overly proud of you, in awe and giddy that you’re my niece! Had it not been for you, probably many like me never would have known that this Holiday existed! I asked my girlfriends and they had no idea there was even such a Holiday! To think we as a group of Moms knew all the Holidays! Nope guess we didn’t!
This pandemic has prevented us from any kind of normalcy so we can’t get together this Saturday to celebrate this newfound holiday and we’ve made plans that God willing starting next year February 13th and every year after we will get together on this day and have some girl time aside from our regular visits!
On behalf of our group of Moms, thank you so much!
Stay well, safe and keep shooting for the stars! I love you!
Auntie Berd
Julie Sione • Feb 10, 2021 at 9:36 am
Excellent Article! I never even knew about this holiday, what a wonderful idea. Thank you for raising awareness!