Dear Gus: Overbearing Parents

May 1, 2014

Gus at his usual post, in the hallway in front of Ms. Lancaster’s office. Photographer: Rosemary Pastron ’16

Dear Gus,

My parents have been pressuring me lately about my grades. I know they want the best for me, but they won’t leave me alone. What should I do?

Sincerely,
It’smylife

Dear It’smylife,

Thank you so much for reaching out to me with your question. It can feel so overwhelming when parents put pressure on you about your grades. It’s hard enough to be a student facing your own pressures, and when parents add to that stress it can feel impossible to handle. Have you tried talking to your parents about how their comments have been affecting you? Sometimes parents don’t understand that their constant pressure is really harmful to your success. If it’s hard to talk to them, maybe writing it all out in a letter could be a better way to go about it. Also, opening up to a friend or other trusted adult or counselor about this could be a great way to feel more supported.

Sincerely,
Gus

Featured Image: Gus at his usual post, in the hallway in front of Ms. Lancaster’s office. Photographer: Rosemary Pastron ’16

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Gus • May 12, 2014 at 8:18 pm

Hi Stressed,
I have responded to your question, which you can find here http://oracle.archeronline.org/dear-gus-balancing-work/

Thanks for asking for my help,
Gus


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Stressed • May 2, 2014 at 6:33 pm

Dear Gus,
I am going to be approaching my bat Mitzvah soon and the work load is just piling up. Everything is about my bat Mitzvah yet I still need to balance it with my school work. I talked to my parents and they told me they would help me. But I still have work, I hope that there is a way for me to tell my teachers if maybe I could postpone some of my work. I will be having lessons everyday until my bat-mitzvah.

Thank you for helping me,
Stressed


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  Ms. Taylor • May 2, 2014 at 8:42 pm
  
  Stressed,
  I know that Gus will be happy to respond to your question! We don’t have a way to submit to him online yet (we are working on this!), but you can leave your question in the anonymous box in the library. Hang in there!
  
  
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Susan Anderson • May 2, 2014 at 4:14 pm

Oh Dear Gus you are so kind, smart and empathic. Thank you for listening. Susan


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